As parents, we all want what is best for our children. We want our children to grow up to be happy, successful, and fulfilled adults. Although we all have this goal in common, we often differ on how we go about achieving it. One thing we all can most likely agree on, however, is that building up your child’s confidence at an early age is crucial. Just think of a time when you felt good about yourself. The chances are that during this time you also probably found it easier to get along with other people, be helpful, and be true to yourself. This is no coincidence, and it is an important fact to remember. Confidence can build self-esteem and increase the likelihood that your child will grow up to become a healthy and well-adjusted adult.
At Montessori Education Centers, we always strive to instill our students with a sense of competence, self-reliance, and confidence. We know that confidence is something that doesn’t always come naturally. In this article, we would like to share with you some reminders on how to build your child’s confidence.
Diversity and difference is a beautiful thing. However, as parents, this is something we can easily forget. At times, it can feel that our child’s differences are too different. And whether we make a conscious decision to or not, we can begin to signal disapproval. This can shatter a child’s self-confidence and create an insecurity that, over the years, can manifest itself in a number of ways.
As proponents of the Montessori philosophy, we always encourage parents to allow kids to follow their curiosities and passions. It is important to remember that everyone excels at something, and as your child explores and pins down what this something might be, it is crucial to respect and encourage this interest. While this doesn’t mean that you should give your child free reign to do what they want, it does mean that you strive to support their budding pursuits so long as they are healthy. Who knows—what you may see as a waste of time could become the thing that helps them build confidence and a solid sense of self.
Foster Decision Making
Though it can be hard to accept—especially if you are the parent of a young child—eventually your child will be a teen and then an adult who will be making their own decisions. The earlier you start to foster their decision-making skills, the better chance you have that they will routinely make smart and safe decisions. Putting this into practice can be as simple as questioning your child’s reasoning. For example, rather than simply ordering your child to clean up their toys, instead, ask them why you think they should pick up their toys. Sending them down this line of reasoning will likely lead them to conclude that picking up their toys will help keep them from breaking, anyone from tripping, etc. Over time this type of questioning will inform their decision-making abilities for the better.
Additionally, setting up situations where your child can safely explore, learn a new skill, and make decisions can be a great way to instill your child with independence and adventure. When doing this, be sure not to hover or intervene too much. For example, maybe after demonstrating how to make a sandwich, you step away and let your child have a go at it. Allowing for this type of exploration can build confidence and start to prepare your child to handle new situations and make sound decisions. Similarly, providing your child with regular chores and responsibilities can also help to boost confidence, learn new skills, and make them feel like they are filling a valuable role in the household.
While it can be hard to not intervene when watching your child trying to make a decision, biting your tongue, stepping back, and allowing them to figure it out on their own can often be an invaluable lesson that will help them become better problem solvers.
At our Montessori Education Centers, we understand the importance of instilling students with confidence. The Montessori teaching philosophy is guided by the goal of fostering an environment that helps children become more independent, responsible, self-disciplined, life-long learners, and problem solvers. If you are interested in learning more about our educational centers, be sure to check out our FAQ page and contact us with any questions.
Be sure to be on the lookout for Ways to Boost Confidence in Kids—Pt. II.