As we mentioned in our previous article, confidence and self-esteem are two crucial ingredients in the recipe for helping a child become a happy and well-adjusted adult. Building confidence is more than profusely praising your child—plus, if you are lazy with your compliments and offer the same phrase over and over again, your child will grow accustomed to this and find it hard to know what accomplishments are worth celebrating. As parents—and, therefore, one of the main sources of your child’s sense of self-worth—we have a responsibility to be a positive influence on your child and his or her self-esteem. In today’s article, we at Omaha Montessori Education Centers would like to pick up right where we left off and offers some more tips for boosting your child’s self-confidence.
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When looking for ways to help build your child’s self-confidence, keep these tips in mind:
Treating your child’s trivial emotions seriously can be hard—after all, is it really that big of a deal if your child doesn’t get the toy they want? However, engaging with them and their feelings, rather than simply dismissing them can be valuable. Instead of casting judgment on your child’s emotions, try to help them understand what their feeling. Acknowledging emotions and validating their realness will help build self-acceptance and confidence. It will also help them learn to trust their feelings and feel comfortable in sharing them with others.
Additionally, meltdowns and setbacks often provide great learning opportunities. These hurdles can be the perfect opportunity to remind your child that no one succeeds every time at everything. Rather than dwelling on failures, use these moments to teach resilience and how he or she can do better next time.
According to a Harvard Report, “Parents who don’t prioritize their children caring for others can deprive them of the chance to develop fundamental relationship skills, and strong relationships are one of our most vital and durable sources of well-being.” This is also to say, teaching your children that doing good is something that can make you feel good. Teaching your child the gratification and value of selflessness and kindness can help build self-esteem and help your child become an empathetic, caring, and compassionate adult.
On this note, it is also important to impart healthy self-love to your child. This can be achieved by simply celebrating your own achievements in a healthy way. When doing this, be introspective and humbly talk about the skills and efforts that were required to accomplish your success. And perhaps most importantly, remind them that they possess a range of skills that they can develop and use to accomplish their own pursuits and goals.
While it is important to acknowledge emotions and validate your child’s feelings, it is important to not give in to temper tantrums and letting your child control you. When your child is angry or throwing a tantrum, they are also likely feeling overwhelmed and out of control. Consistently maintaining a calm and strong disposition can be a sure-fire way of asserting control. When children know who is in charge and what they can expect, they are generally more confident.
Whatever your household rules are, be clear and direct with your expectations and with what is important to your family. When attempting to do this, it is vital to remember that you are a parent first, not a best friend. Adhering to an unwavering enforcement of rules can create a foundation of security and confidence. And one day when your child is experiencing peer pressure, he or she will naturally fall back on this foundation and have confidence in his or her good judgment.
At our Montessori Education Centers, we always strive to help build confidence. Many of these above-listed tips are an important part of our Montessori teaching philosophy. Our teachers—who are actually more of guides and mentors for our students’ explorative learning—are driven by the goal of helping their students become more well-rounded, caring, inquisitive, innovative, social, and confident. If you are interested in learning more about our educational centers, be sure to check out our FAQ page and contact us with any questions.